IFS Couples Therapy: ADHD
With trauma-informed IFS treatment we will start to break down this pattern into an overwhelmed manager and a rejected inner child. Once both parts are heard, witnessed, and resourced, there will be more space for the wise adults of both partners to creatively problem solve.
“It sounds like your overwhelmed manager part needs some extra resourcing, how about I sit with you and act as a body double as you plan our trip. I know that can help you stay focused when someone else is in the room.”
When the triggered parts are witnessed they can step back and the creative, compassionate Self can steer the conversation in a more productive and optimistic way.
Living with ADHD means means your mind is constantly being enticed by shinier things. Mundane tasks and menial chores are difficult. Once you accept that, and begin to ask your partner for help with things like scheduling dates or vacations, intimacy and collaboration will replace bitterness and rejection.